Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Okaeri (お帰り)

So a high school friend who has been teaching in Japan just came back yesterday. While I've been keeping in touch with him via IM and met up with him on his various short visits back to the states... it was just nice to see him back home for little longer than a few weeks. So much has changed in the past two years, yet so little. He is almost like a totally different person, having experienced so much while teaching in Japan and obviously grown quite a bit. But we still sort of chat about the same thing, its as if it was only a month or two ago that he was sitting in my room and we were just chilling or playing Halo2. We ended up just catching up for 3 hours in my room that hasn't changed much since his last visit (still just as messy... filled with anime posters from high school....).

I guess two things that especially stuck out from the conversation are the advices about relationships.... The first one he thought was one of the best advice he has ever received... "Relationships don't get easier with time, it actually gets harder." As time goes on what use to be exciting becomes the mundane and you must continue to grow and the relationship must continue to evolve or else it'll become stagnant and fall apart. I guess that's why so many relationships and marriages fail after a couple of years... the couple must continue to grow together find new things of interest... new things to do together. So incredibly true, yet so easy to fall into that trap...

The second piece of advice was apparently something I said to him a few months back: "After you've broken up with someone, you really should not try to get back together. Once the glass shatters, its impossible to put it back together. But if you feel like you must try again and get back together... then do so without any doubts or hesitation. Only look forward and forget about the past mistakes." It is so easy to get stuck in the past and just pass the blame around ("its your fault" or "I wish you did X"). But with all things in life, its easier said then done as he wasn't able to follow it :). Sigh...

Anyways time for more random youtube vids of songs from an artist I've been listening to lately (JJ Lin):